You send the biodata to one trusted aunty. By evening it is in four rishta groups, on a matchmaker's phone and with families you will never meet. That is how rishtas work now, and it is exactly why what you write matters.
Quick answer: write the details a family needs to decide whether to talk further: city, age, height, qualification, occupation, religion and sect, language, native town, family background and a few polite preferences. Leave out anything that could identify or locate the person to a stranger: CNIC, full date of birth, home address, personal phone number and, if you prefer, the name and photo.
What to write in a rishta biodata
Think of the first biodata as an introduction, not a full file. It should answer the questions every family asks in the first five minutes:
- Where? City where the family lives, and native town.
- How old and how tall? Age in years and height in feet and inches.
- Education and work? Highest qualification, and occupation described simply ("Engineer at a telecom company", "Teaching at a private college").
- Faith and home language? Religion, sect and the language spoken at home.
- What kind of family? Parents' occupations, brothers and sisters, and whether the house is owned.
- Who is the person? One or two lines under "Others": interests, values, whether they plan to stay in Pakistan or are settled abroad.
- What are you looking for? Two or three gentle preference lines.
The rishta biodata maker has a line for each of these, plus optional ones for caste and monthly income, so you only fill in what your family is comfortable sharing.
What to leave out: rishta biodata privacy
Once a biodata is forwarded, you cannot take it back. Before sending, ask: "Would I be fine if a stranger in another city saw this?"
| Leave out on the first send | Why | Write instead |
|---|---|---|
| CNIC number | It is an identity document, and nobody needs it for a rishta. | Nothing |
| Full date of birth | Combined with a name, it makes identity misuse easy. | Age in years |
| Home address | Strangers do not need to know where you live. | City and area, e.g. "Lahore" |
| Girl's or boy's own number | Unwanted calls and messages. | A parent's or elder sibling's number |
| Small employer's exact name | Easy to trace the person at work. | "Doctor at a private hospital" |
| Photo (if you are unsure) | Photos get saved and reshared. | "Photo shared on request" |
| Name (optional) | Keeps the biodata anonymous until interest is real. | "Rishta for our son / daughter" |
None of this is about hiding anything. Serious families will get every detail once both sides are talking. You are only choosing who gets them.
How to write preferences politely
The preferences section is where many biodatas go wrong. A list of demands about complexion, weight or wealth tells the other family more about you than about what you want, and good families quietly move on.
Write what you hope for, in calm, general terms. Some wording that works:
- Instead of "Fair, slim and beautiful girl only": "Looking for a well-mannered, educated girl from a respectable family."
- Instead of "Boy must earn 5 lakh+": "Boy should be well-settled in his profession."
- Instead of "No joint family": "Open to discussing living arrangements."
- Instead of "Only doctors": "Preference for a professional, ideally in the medical field."
- Instead of "Must live in Karachi": "Preferably from Karachi or willing to settle here."
- For abroad: "Open to proposals from families settled in the UK or UAE."
Keep it to two or three lines. A short, kind preferences section brings more responses, not fewer.
Wording the rest with care
Occupation
Be specific about the field, general about the employer. "Chartered accountant at a multinational" is clear and safe. If the person is studying, write "Final year BS Computer Science" rather than leaving it blank.
Family details
Short and respectful: "Father: retired school principal. Mother: housewife. 2 brothers (1 married), 1 sister (married)." No need to list every cousin or add anyone's salary.
Others
This is where the person comes alive. One honest line is enough: "Hafiz-e-Quran, enjoys cricket and travelling" or "Loves cooking, reading and spending time with family." Avoid exaggeration; it shows in the first meeting.
Things best said in person
Previous engagements, health matters, family disputes and property details are conversations between elders once both sides are interested. They do not belong on a page that gets forwarded.
Rishta biodata text for WhatsApp: a sample
Here is a sample for an example family, in the plain text format that gets copied between groups:
Rishta for our son
City: Karachi
Age: 30 years
Height: 5'10"
Qualification: BE Electrical Engineering
Occupation: Engineer at a private power company
Religion / Sect: Islam, Sunni
Language: Urdu
Native town: Hyderabad
Family
Father: Retired government officer
Mother: Housewife
Brothers: 1 (married, doctor in Riyadh)
Sisters: 2 (both married)
House: Own house
Others
Offers prayers regularly, enjoys cricket and reading, plans to stay in Pakistan.
Preferences
Looking for an educated, well-mannered girl from a respectable family, age 24–28, from Karachi or willing to settle here.
Photo shared on request.
Contact: Father, 03XX-XXXXXXX
Notice what is there and what is not. Everything a family needs to decide "yes, let's talk" is present. Nothing a stranger could misuse is.
Before you hit send
- Have the person read it. It is their biodata, and they should be comfortable with every line.
- Check age, height and occupation match in the picture and the text.
- Remove the name and photo if it is going into large groups.
- Use a parent's or elder's contact number.
- Keep one clean version and resend that, rather than edited screenshots of old messages.
Making it the easy way
On the rishta biodata page you type the details once on your phone and see a live preview. Turn the name off and the heading reads "Rishta for our son" or "Rishta for our daughter". Turn the photo off and it says "Photo shared on request". Caste and monthly income are optional lines you can leave empty. Download a 4:5 picture for WhatsApp, a PDF, or copy the ready-made WhatsApp text in the format above. Your details stay saved on your phone as you type, and every design is free.
If you would like to see the nine designs first, from Ivory Classic to Ivory Monogram (made for biodatas without a photo), browse the rishta biodata templates.
